Mentoring Relationships Change

Mentoring relationships change, don’t they.  There’s the excitement of getting to know another, discovering common preferences and experiences, sharing points of interest on your spiritual journeys, revealing the ways your brokenness has uniquely marked your hearts and paths. And the frustration of combing out the tangles in your relationship when you have had difficult conversations…the pleasure of [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentoring Can Be Tedious

Who wants more tedium? Don’t we have too much of our own to invite more as spiritual mentors? Part and parcel of life, tedium. Unless you happen to be an exception to the general pace in which we all progress in maturity–two steps forward and one or two or more backward before we edge forward again. I’m all [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentors & Mentorees: How to Share Your Feelings in Difficult Conversations

Expressing your feelings does not guarantee that you will enjoy satisfying relationships with your mentorees and others. The key is being able to share them with skill. The authors of Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, Stone, Patton and Heen, offer three guidelines to expressing feelings appropriately: (1) sort out what your feelings are; (2) negotiate [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentors vs. Mentorees: The “Feelings” Conversation

Talking about your feelings can be scary and messy in the best of situations. In difficult conversations, managing them is even harder. So what should you do about them? It may feel too risky to share feelings and painful to have them dismissed or misunderstood. Then should you just stick to the facts and altogether [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentors & Mentorees: The “What Happened?” Conversation

In the previous post, I wrote about three categories or conversations inherent to every interaction between you and your mentorees: the “What Happened?” Conversation, the “Feelings Conversation,” and the “Identity Conversation.” All of these are presented in Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Mostby authors Stone, Patton and Heen, my favorite secular writers on the topic of [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Difficult Conversations: Mentor vs. Mentoree

Every human relationship encounters snags that need to be untangled, and that process is challenging for even the most skillful of communicators. So why are we surprised when our mentoring relationships hit communication potholes?   Authors Stone, Patton and Heen offer insight into our interactions in their excellent book entitled Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentors Need Support Too

In the story of Israel’s the battle with the Amalekites, success depended not only upon the faithfulness and strength of Joshua and his warriors, but also upon the ability of Moses to keep his hands outstretched toward heaven, denoting his dependence upon God. As you know, Moses faltered and had to be repositioned upon a rock with his weary arms propped up [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

An Essential Marker of Wise Mentoring

Your role as mentor is highly valuable, not only to your mentorees, but also to God, who declares, “Those who are wise shall shine like the brightness of the sky, and those who lead many to righteousness, like the stars forever and ever” (Daniel 12:3). Such wisdom compels you to protect the dignity of your mentoree’s struggles, [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentoring Parched Souls

When my soul feels parchced, it’s usually because I engage the Love Letter of Scripture more for inspiration or instruction than for relationship with the Great Lover.     Learning about God and the intent of the text that I’m reading are necessarily intertwined with knowing and being known by God.   But my heart becomes [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }

Mentors as Sanctuary

Who is the safest person you know? Perhaps not the wisest or most together, but one with whom you feel very safe to share your heart when it’s most vulnerable? A human sanctuary if you will. Some of us know others who approach mentoring and the rest of life as though transformation occurs by accumulating [...]

Read full story Comments { 0 }
cheap rolex watches swiss rolex watches Best replica rolex watches uk cheap rolex watches for men replica rolex uk chaep replica waches Replica watches in uk replica rolex uk nike free run femme nike free run pas cher Nike Free Run Nike free run 4.0 v3 nike free run 2.0